After my post about traveling as a couple, a few of you had asked to hear about couple travel from Logan’s perspective, so today he’s here sharing some of the things he’s learned from traveling with me over the last year and a bit and hopefully give any aspiring traveling couples some helpful tips!
Travel is an amazing thing. Being able to experience a new land, culture, and language for a short while before returning home and resuming your regularly scheduled life. Travelling with your significant other can improve your relationship, as discovering new things together can be truly life-changing. Here are a few things that I’ve learned from traveling with Emily and things I think every traveling couple should keep in mind.
Be more open!
Compromise is the key to any successful relationship. It’s even more important while traveling. Who knows then you will be able to go back and do the things that you didn’t necessarily want to do. If your significant other wants to do or try something, you should do your best to go for it and do it. Who knows, it could turn out to be something extremely memorable and will give you something more to talk about than saying you sat around in your hotel room watching Netflix. I know I can be stubborn and set in my ways, but I can attest to the fact that when I have stepped out of my comfort zone and tried new things while abroad, I have never regretted it. There’s no time to be cowardly or hesitant, be adventurous and GO FOR IT. Some of our best memories have been unplanned adventures or spur of the moment ideas!
It’s Nice to Have Company
This one is pretty straightforward but also the biggest thing I’ve appreciated having. Travel can be stressful, but having someone there to keep you calm and help you handle whatever problems arise is a huge bonus. From getting pictures taken of you to having someone you know to sit beside on airplanes or buses, your significant other can make life a lot easier and a lot more comfortable! Not to mention, dining can be a lot more romantic than a table-for-one. Believe me, spending 20-hours in a Singapore airport would’ve been disastrous if it wasn’t for Emily keeping me sane. Plus, you’ll have someone to laugh (or cry) with at the end of the terrible days, which we have had many of this past year.
Traveling Together Will Open New Doors for You
This ties in with #1. Everyone is different. From their favorite music to food to activities, every person will have something new and different to bring to the table. When you travel, try to experience your significant others favorites in addition to your own so that you have the chance to broaden your horizons and make your experience abroad worthwhile! I remember that on our past few trips there has been a lot of food options, and I’ll be honest, I do not like seafood, but on our travels, Emily would recommend I try a fish dish that she knew to be good or had me try some of hers and let me tell you it did not disappoint. It not only tasted really good, but it also let me be more open in the future to native foods that many of the places we visited offer. It allows you to better immerse yourself in the culture
You’ll Learn a lot About Yourself, and Your Partner
This is probably the most important thing I’ve learned. Travel brings out the best and worst in people. From layovers to delays, to hours without food or miserable weather, travel can be a true test of one’s character. If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that regardless of how bad things may seem during travel, the good times far outweigh it all. I remember on mine and Emily’s recent trip to the Maldives, we experienced nearly 40 hours of air travel, the longest boat ferry in the roughest seas imaginable, and torrential rain-pour for most of our time there. BUT, being there to see how each other handled these situations was a true turning point in our relationship. How someone reacts in the face of disaster is a really telling feature about them and I’m glad Emily and I had the opportunity to work through these tough times. Plus, when we were swimming side by side with the first whale-shark we had ever seen, none of it mattered. The feeling of standing together on the beach or swimming in the ocean or watching a beautiful sunset makes you both forget how hungry or tired you were and how it was all so worth it. We’ve had a lot of bad luck in travel this year, so this was probably the most prominent point.
Play Up Eachother’s Strengths
I know above I said to try new things and step out of your comfort zone, but knowing your own and your significant others’ strengths can help tremendously. Take some time while you travel to do what you like to do as a couple! Do things that are unique to you guys so that you are taking time to strengthen your relationship and make memories that you’ll remember! We are an adventurous couple, we like hiking and swimming and diving and, of course, eating! We know that’s what we love so we don’t plan our trips to be sitting around. We plan for adventure and that makes our experience a hell of a lot better and we both feel so much better being able to share it with one another when we are exhausted at the end of each day.
Bring Home Memories
Something really important to me is food (what’s new). So when I go somewhere I always make sure to get tips for food that I can bring back and try at home. The same should go for your relationship. Make memories and pick up little habits that you can bring home and integrate into your everyday life. From quick-and-easy meals to make or a nice bottle of wine that will remind you of your time there, be sure to put memories into simple things that mean a lot. The biggest thing I think that we picked up from travel this year was the wine, cheese, and sausage that we would have for basically every meal in Portugal. It’s something that, when we have it now, reminds us of our time there and the simply absurd quantities we consumed.
There are so many other things that happen when you travel with the one you love but not everything can be put into words. Just remember to make the most of every moment. Make sure to make memories on every day that you get to spend in another part of the world and leave your mark there. Don’t miss out on anything to do there because you don’t know when you’ll get to go back. Most importantly, and I cannot stress this enough, is to be present while traveling. Don’t get caught up in itineraries or timelines, focus on where you are, what you’re doing, and what you’re seeing because your time there is limited and there is no point wasting it when your mind is elsewhere.