Hey guys! Long time no talk. I apologize for the lack of posts recently; I’ve gotten completely overwhelmed by the new school year and taking on a bunch of new projects, but now I’m back and ready to share some new stuff with you guys.
Today I’m going to be talking about an interesting topic, that I get asked a lot about, and that’s how to travel with your significant other (without killing each other).
Travelling as a couple is a true test of your relationship, and in my mind, a deal breaker. Because travel is such a big part of my life, I need to be with someone who shares this passion and who can travel with me. Travelling together will not only be a test of your relationship, but it will be a chance to see and discover each other in a new light. You’re bound to experience all aspects of each others personalities while travelling (the good and the bad!) and maybe even learn a couple new things about your partner.
My boyfriend Logan and I travelled to Hawaii together this summer and managed to survive a full two weeks without any substantial quarrels. I wouldn’t chalk it up to our relationship being perfect, because it certainly isn’t. There were some tense moments like when we got lost trying to find our AirBnb, or we went a little too long without food and I got hangry, but I think we both knew these little road bumps weren’t worth ruining the trip over. So we drove around in circles for half an hour and Logan let me pout about food for a bit and we quickly got over it.
We unknowingly employed a few of the tips below, before and during our trip, which helped us to stay at peace with one another and enjoy every second of our travels. Try following some of these tips on your next trip with your partner, or even a family member, or friend! They’re sure to keep you cool as a cucumber and deep in love-even when things go wrong!
- Let them know your weird habits before you go
Unless you’re living together, your significant other probably doesn’t know that you snore louder than a chainsaw or talk in your sleep. If you have a quirky habit that they may not be aware of, it’s best to let them know before you get halfway across the world and they’re ready to put a pillow over your face so they can finally get some sleep.
- Plan your trip together
Even though you might be completely in tune with your partners wants and desires, and can totally plan the perfect trip for them without their input, it’s probably best to include them in the planning process. This way you can make sure you’re participating in excursions you both like, and that you’re both comfortable splurging on a fancy hotel.
I’m sure it’s in every “relationships for dummies” handbook, but the only way to make a relationship work is through compromise. This is especially true when travelling. If you want to spend your entire trip shopping on Champs-Élysées, but your partner wants to climb the stairs of the Eiffel Tower, you’re going to need to come to some sort of compromise or you’re both going to have an awful trip. Even if climbing 1,710 stairs sounds like assured death to you, you need to be considerate of what you’re partner wants to do as well. Try shopping in the morning and taking the elevator to the top of the tower in the evening!
- Be considerate of each others budget
If you’ve got thousands in the bank, but your partner is working three jobs to save up for this trip, be mindful of the differences in your budgetary restrictions and don’t suggest going to the most expensive five star resorts, or elaborate excursions. You’ll put your partner in an awkward position to have to say no, and no one likes being embarrassed by finances-or lack thereof. Early on in the planning process sit down with your partner and between the two of you, come up with a budget. Decide how much each of you is willing to spend on airfare, hotels, food, excursions, etc. and how you’ll split the cost of the trip. Will you split everything 50/50 or will you cover airfare and your partner cover hotels? Having this discussion early on will save you the awkward fights later on.
- Utilize each other’s strengths
They do say two is better than one, so when you’re travelling combine your forces to become the best you can be. If you’re partner is really charming and you’re better at haggling, combine your skills to get a great deal at a local market. Or if you’re partner is better with directions and you’re more of a photographer, let them handle the map and you take over the camera.
- Acknowledge each other’s weaknesses
Along with appreciating each other’s strengths, it’s also important to recognize each other’s weaknesses. While there’s no need to directly call your partner out, quietly acknowledge them in your mind and work around them. If your partner isn’t comfortable swimming in the ocean, try to find some land activities the both of you might enjoy. This also goes back to the whole idea of compromising!
- Put the phones away
You shouldn’t be checking Twitter constantly while you’re travelling anyway, but even more so when you’re in good company! Keep your phone in your room, or if you have it on you, leave it off! Let yourself enjoy each others company and the new experiences you’re living.
- Have a fancy night out
Regardless of the overall style of your trip, try to plan one night to get dressed up and get drunk together. Travelling can be exhausting, especially if you’re doing a lot of activities like hiding and scuba diving. Having a night to unwind, relax, and enjoy each others company will be incredibly refreshing.
That’s all for today guys! I hope you enjoyed today’s post and find some of these tips useful! If you have any additional tips to add, please comment below!